The regret of forgiveness

                                      BIOGRAPHY

HELLO! MY NAME IS JOÃO GAMBÔA
“WEIGHING A FORGIVENESS” IS A BOOK THAT IS TO HELP YOU IN MANY WAYS. I REALLY HOPE THAT IT DOESN'T NEED TO BE GOING THROUGH SITUATIONS LIKE THE BOOK MENTIONS TO MAKE THE BOOK HELP YOU!
THE BOOK WILL BE A LOT OF HELP. IT CONTAINS INFORMATION THAT WILL HELP NOT ONLY MAKE PEACE WITH THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE. HE WILL ALSO HELP YOU SELF DEFINE AND CREATE YOUR OWN PERSONALITY. YOU WILL ALSO HELP KNOW HOW TO CONTROL YOUR WISHES AND PERSONALITY. HE WILL STILL HELP YOU SEE HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO HEAR THAT LITTLE VOICE INSIDE OUR HEAD. AND WILL SHOW WHY THE FEELINGS OF OTHERS ARE SO IMPORTANT RESPIRATOR.
STEPS 2,5 AND 6 HELPED IN THIS SENSE.
I HOPE THAT YOU UNDERSTAND THE MAIN OBJECTIVE OF THIS BOOK. HE IS ABSTRACT, WHICH MEANS IT IS ASSIGNED BY YOU. .
GOOD, I WISH A GOOD READING AND A GOOD INCOME FROM THE “SIGH OF A FORGIVENESS”

      WHAT IRONY, WE LIVE WRONG BUT WE ARE NOT ACCustomed TO ASKING FOR EXCUSES. ASKING FOR EXCUSES MAKES US SITTING THE PAIN THAT CAUSES THE HURTED PERSON. AFTER WE FEEL THE PAIN THAT WE CAUSE IN THE OTHER PERSON, WE FEEL EVEN MORE TERRIBLE; WE FEEL HORRIBLE, WE FEEL A SORRY THAT WE CANNOT DESCRIBE!
      This actually happens because we are sorry for the evil we cause, for the intense and bitter suffering we cause to the people we love. It is not about doing something that the person does not like, it is about shaking the trust, the affection, the respect, the love and even the admiration that the person has for you. Hurt someone emotionally is expensive and is a terrible pain for the hurt person, especially if it is someone you love very much. And it only gets worse if the person in question has the same affection for you.
       Understand that hurting someone goes beyond simply saying or doing something the person doesn't like. Hurt someone "involves messing with the person's emotional and psychological state" You can do this by morally offending the person (calling offensive names to the person, or by spreading matters related to him, whether they are true or false, that he wanted to keep in secret), that is, for doing or saying something bad related to the person, whether it be truth or lie but that the person did not want others to know. Furthermore, for someone to be hurt by you, there needs to be a strong bond of intimacy. If you said or did something that hurt someone emotionally, it means that the person in question has a very strong feeling for you, because if he didn't, he wouldn't even care what you did!
       So, if you are sorry, you will feel the hurt person's pain, and if you are feeling the hurt person's pain, you will be feeling terrible! Which means, it is time to act as your conscience told you to act from the beginning!
You feel horrible for many reasons, three of which are paramount:
• you have hurt a person / people you love and who love you / love you too;
• you hurt your heart and the other feelings in it towards you;
• The person in question is as precious to you as you are to him;
        So, of course, feeling bad about what you've done is a clear demonstration of your love for that person. But it is not enough to just feel bad, you now understand how the person feels, now you will act to undo the wrong done, that's right, it will persist until you undo the evil you did to the hurt person.

    It will not be easy, it will require effort, dedication and sacrifices. It is an arduous struggle, so to speak, to regain the trust, respect, affection, love and admiration that someone lost for having hurting him / her is the most difficult part to do, it is so difficult that it takes time or even a long time, but it is because it is so difficult that this is the right way to rectify your selfish error and reverse what you did.
                        Step 1: Admit your mistake!
You must first be honest with yourself. Recognize that what you did is very wrong and very serious, that your act was selfish, proud and loveless. You broke the trust of the person you hurt, your denatured act, made the person you hurt lose all the respect he had for you, all the admiration and consequently that person's LOVE for you is at stake!
You need to instill in your mind and all these aspects, as they will help you to see how the hurt person feels. When you feel what a hurt person feels on your skin, it is easier to see the size of your mistake and how dangerous it is. The main objective in admitting your mistake is to make you realize that your act is wrong, and when you admit it is wrong, you can follow the correct course of the situation to correct. So, admit your mistake, first for yourself and then for the person you hurt.
But, attention! Admitting a mistake involves more than simply saying "I messed up" you need to transmit that thought to your heart, exactly, you need to transmit that thought to your heart. By transmitting that thought to your heart, it will make it flow naturally in Then your heart will be in harmony with your conscience, which will make everything much easier. When your heart is in harmony with your thoughts, you will be able to act in favor of your thoughts more easily. step...
         2 Step: Harmonize the heart to the Thoughts.
After admitting your mistake, you need to harmonize your ideas with your heart's desires. The heart is very naive. When thoughts, whether positive or negative, see us, they seek the most sensitive and understanding place within us to settle. And that Place, is the heart. There is a very wise saying that says "The heart is more treacherous than anything else, who can know it? »This proverb, of course. We cannot simply trust our desires that come from our hearts. As the first step has already shown, it is necessary to harmonize your thoughts with your desires. And how to do that?
To harmonize thoughts with desires, there is only one thing to be done. You need to know your heart. You need to know the desires that develop in him and the true characteristics of him. For that, some details need to be taken into account. There is a very wise saying to help you identify these characteristics. «The good man takes what is good from the good treasure of his heart, but the bad man takes what is bad from the bad treasure of his heart» These proverbs make it very clear that although the heart is full of good and bad desires, it is you who decide, choose and order which one to bring out. You need to know which one is the wrong wish and which one is the good wish. To do this, you will have to associate the patterns of right and wrong with your mentality or way of thinking. Hence, you would need time to look deeply into what you know about right and wrong. When you know the difference between right and wrong in your mind, you will be able to analyze when a desire is bad or good is. By knowing your heart's desires, you can reason better about them in order to control them and when you control your desires, you can control what you are going to do, say, see, and you will even be able to control who you will be with or live with . And that is a very important aspect. The people you live with have a certain degree of influence on you. It is an indisputable fact. Even if you don't want to, the people you live with transmit a degree of influence to you and that influence can be good or bad. That is why it is very important to get to know the people with whom we live in the background; their habits, their principles and their manners. This includes even paying attention to the way he treats others around him. "If the people you live with transmit bad behavior, don't have good habits or treat other people around you badly, sooner or later you will act like them" so be careful with whom you live. Perhaps the problem is not with you, perhaps the problem is in your coexistence.
This time, it is necessary to identify, select, delete and save. Your heart needs a good will to make decisions that will not hurt you and that guide is your mind. Only, for her to be able to guide her heart correctly, she needs to know the heart well and to know the heart well just so they were in harmony. And the paragraph above showed the characteristics you need to follow. See them again here below:
 Know the desires that develop in your heart.
 Learn to identify good and bad desires.
 Know your relationships, remember that they can influence you, whether with good or bad actions.
 Reason about your desires based on the principles of right and wrong.
 Identify desires.
 Select which of them are the most desires and which of them are good desires.
 Eliminate the wrong desires. If necessary, eliminate or avoid constant contact with any people who carry those same desires.
 Keep good wishes with you.